I wrote a nicely written piece this morning for this blog. It’s title was “Crap on Whole Wheat…Hold the Mud Slinging Please” but was undecided whether to publish or not. I find that if you are hesitant to publish something that it’s probably best not to do so. This post was of the personal nature of numerous family issues I am having. It was not bashing but rather getting thoughts off my chest. However, after more consideration I decided that this site and the internet are really not a good place to exhibit our personal lives to this degree. Hey, you learn something new every day:)
I am going through many life changes at the moment which greatly affect my relationship with my family. I have always had my family on my side throughout life, so I thought. But I never realized just how controlled I was until recently. I was basically told how to live, what to drive and even where to live. I did go against their feelings on many things when it came to relationships but was still “controlled” in many, many ways. I feel that with the recent events still going on in my life, I have become stronger. I am a very timid person who has dealt with a life of people taking advantage of that trait. People have tended to think they could walk all over me and get whatever it was they were searching for. It’s just not the case anymore.
With the issues I’m now struggling with in life I feel I have now broken my “shackles in life” and have become “Unshackled”. By unshackled I mean free from the chains and constrictions my family has thrown at me in life. It’s a different kind of feeling of freedom. They no longer control my actions. I have and am still becoming a stronger person for what I am going through. No one should feel tied down, controlled or shackled within their lives. It’s a great feeling of helplessness, a feeling that no one believes in you or thinks you can handle things on your own. A controlling force in your life is not necessary. It actually feels as though you are insignificant and others feel you are not capable of making the right decisions on your own. It’s actually very demeaning. It belittles you and makes you feel like you are a lesser person than the controller in your life.
While writing the other post I realized I was not thinking in the right direction. People can post personal things but should be very careful about what it is they are posting. Once on the internet-always on the internet! If it just doesn’t feel right than you should heed your initial reaction to it. I feel family and friends are impacted by what we post. And some things should always remain private. You should not display your whole life out there for the world to read about. If it’s too personal than it should be left on the back burner. I guess my pet-peeve would be posting a lot about children, as they have no say in the matter. However, could or would read about it later on in life. I think it should be a person’s own choice to post about themselves and not be up to the parent or others to do so for them. Although, my post “Crap on Whole Wheat…Hold the Mud Slinging Please” was done tastefully something just didn’t seem right in posting it. When posting go with your instincts because as we all know, our first instinct is usually the right one!
Article & Photo By Chrissy Smith