In life I feel you are given challenges for a reason. I understand that we are given certain situations to deal with and there are reasons for it all. I have been given advantages and disadvantages just like everyone else. Although, I feel a certain aspect of my appearance causes many people to unknowingly judge me. The topic here is hard for me to discuss but it has taught me not to judge others in any way, shape or form-as you just don’t know.
At 33 years of age I lost all my upper teeth and a great portion of my bottom teeth. I went though extensive oral surgery for months slowly removing 26 teeth. The process was very painful and was very sad to me to have to do. I have had many dentures made for me however, could never wear them. I never quite understood why. It took almost ten years before a wonderful dentist explained part of the problem why I could not wear the dentures being made for me. A big reason was because I have a torus on the roof of my mouth. Now the funny thing is that I assumed everyone had this. It’s a bump on the roof of your mouth. I know your all reaching up there now with your tongues, unless your already aware of this fact within your mouth. Anyway, they come in sizes too-just like clothing. There is small, medium which I have and of course, large. Thus, this is the reason for me walking around most of the time without dentures as I cannot wear them. I will eventually get implanted teeth and a partial which will not conflict with my dam* torus.
The point of my topic here is not really to tell my story. Although, it’s been brutal not having all my teeth. I do eat anything with use of my remaining bottom ones. So, as I was saying the point is that I get judged every day from people who do not understand why I have no teeth and don’t have dentures in. It’s not because I don’t care or can’t afford them as I may not ever be able to wear anything. However, I constantly get judged, frowned upon and all that bad stuff for this. I also have a small deformity to my lips on the sides from not being able to wear them. It’s not so noticeable with my use of make-up though.
The funny part of this story would be for years I tried to keep my dentures in while dating men. I felt like I was going to lose my stomach the whole time. Then on my way to a “first date” with my husband I kept trying to keep my dentures in and it was just not happening. I even proceeded past his house to try to get a hold of myself and get them in my mouth. I gave up and said what will be will be. I arrived at his house, no teeth in and said sorry I couldn’t keep them in. He laughed gave me a hug and said it’s okay. We joked about it years later and he said I didn’t know they’d never be in but I love you no matter what. It turned out that this was the man for me and his mother never wore her dentures either. So, this didn’t have any bearing on our relationship at all:) All those years of worrying about this with men and then in one swift second life goes on with the man of my dreams-Oh and no teeth……
So, I’m putting myself out here and just saying that I wish more people knew how not to judge others. Because in life there are many reasons why something may be the way it is and not actually what you think it is. Take heed and please don’t judge a person by their cover. I had to say it…I’m an author!!
Article Written By Chrissy Smith. Photo Found on Google!