Unshackled from the “Shackles of Life”!

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I wrote a nicely written piece this morning for this blog. It’s title was “Crap on Whole Wheat…Hold the Mud Slinging Please” but was undecided whether to publish or not. I find that if you are hesitant to publish something that it’s probably best not to do so. This post was of the personal nature of numerous family issues I am having. It was not bashing but rather getting thoughts off my chest. However, after more consideration I decided that this site and the internet are really not a good place to exhibit our personal lives to this degree. Hey, you learn something new every day:)

I am going through many life changes at the moment which greatly affect my relationship with my family. I have always had my family on my side throughout life, so I thought. But I never realized just how controlled I was until recently.  I was basically told how to live, what to drive and even where to live. I did go against their feelings on many things when it came to relationships but was still “controlled” in many, many ways. I feel that with the recent events still going on in my  life, I have become stronger. I am a very timid person who has dealt with a life of people taking advantage of that trait. People have tended to think they could walk all over me and get whatever it was they were searching for. It’s just not the case anymore. 

With the issues I’m now struggling with in life I feel I have now broken my “shackles in life” and have become “Unshackled”. By unshackled I mean free from the chains and constrictions my family has thrown at me in life. It’s a different kind of feeling of freedom. They no longer control my actions. I have and am still becoming a stronger person for what I am going through. No one should feel tied down, controlled or shackled within their lives. It’s a great feeling of helplessness, a feeling that no one believes in you or thinks you can handle things on your own. A controlling force in your life is not necessary. It actually feels as though you are insignificant and others feel you are not capable of making the right decisions on your own. It’s actually very demeaning. It belittles you and makes you feel like you are a lesser person than the controller in your life. 

While writing the other post I realized I was not thinking in the right direction. People can post personal things but should be very careful about what it is they are posting. Once on the internet-always on the internet! If it just doesn’t feel right than you should heed your initial reaction to it. I feel family and friends are impacted by what we post. And some things should always remain private. You should not display your whole life out there for the world to read about.  If it’s too personal than it should be left on the back burner. I guess my pet-peeve would be posting a lot about children, as they have no say in the matter. However, could or would read about it later on in life. I think it should be a person’s own choice to post about themselves and not be up to the parent or others to do so for them. Although, my post “Crap on Whole Wheat…Hold the Mud Slinging Please” was done tastefully something just didn’t seem right in posting it. When posting go with your instincts because as we all know, our first instinct is usually the right one!

 

Article & Photo By Chrissy Smith

 

“Yogurt For Brains?!?”

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Although, I haven’t been here in awhile to write a post…I have been checking in now and then. I have been busy with lots of life changes however, have missed posting and delighting myself with all of your posts. I’m not sure for my whole reasoning as yet to come back and post though. I’m sure that will come in time. My overwhelming personal life has left me with little time. I enjoy it here however, this is more of a venting type of post i’m sure. 

I feel I will be soon updating this site. I like the look and feel of the site but may do a name change possibly tweek it a bit on the tone of it. I want to spread my horizons more and not be too confined to the “author/book” type of niche. I have gone back to brunette from my blonde look here. It’s much easier but basically after twenty years of dying it…yup you got it, it had had it with me and was falling out big time! So, dyed it “Moroccan Brown” and waited for it to grow. It’s now my regular I like to say dirty blonde but more on the light brown side, as well. So, I will have to update photos, etc. when the time comes here. I’m not really in a rush just taking it one post at a time and see where it all leads from here on in. Basically, bear or is it bare well either or just do that for me-Bear with me as I figure it all out here again:)

My world came crashing down as my family falls downward spiraling into destruction of what would normally be called a “family unit”. We are no longer much of what you’d call a unit so to speak. I don’t like to vent or spread my personal life but feel it may be cathartic for me. I’m not sure however what I plan on accomplishing. I just often feel that their are just not families that act and do the things mine do. I feel I am the only one who is well, i’ll give myself above average in sanity:) 

I find things crumbling down before me with no real end in sight. I know, I know you are wondering where the “Yogurt For Brains” comes into the picture here. I will get to that one here for you. I was recently  heard “through the family grapevine” as yes, most in my family are true hard core gossipers that I must have yes, “Yogurt For Brains”! Now i’m wondering if mush for brains, crap for brains or even no brains would have bothered me less. But this so-called comment intrigued me to the point of labeling my first post back here with it. Now trust you this is someone I grew-up with who cared for me that said this. It was someone you’d never expect to turn on you. We will leave it at that.  However, my MOTHER once told me “Sticks and stones may break your bones, but names can never hurt you!” So, maybe I should place that in my memory bank of yogurt to remember huh?

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I was planning doing my venting which would lead us to my venting and then who knows? I think i’ve decided to take the higher road and just say times here are in the upmost highest mode for me. Maybe I can take a new direction post some posts to take my mind off of things for a while. However, just a note to the wise I have never had “Yogurt For Brains” although, I do love Oikos Greek Yogurt every morning for breakfast. Hey, maybe that’s where she got the idea?

Article written by Chrissy Smith. Photos found on Google.

 

Late “INK” Edition – Capture Me in Four Paragraphs or Less…This is How I Roll These Days:)

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I’m use to get “silent” flack here I’m sure. I may not hear you disagreeing, complaining or being disgusted by something that I may have written and wondering why I even tackled that topic. I do not hear you but I feel some of you and you know what that is okay. I am not here to please all and I wish I could but none of us can. SO, I am here to do what makes me happy and that’s writing. Like I have said before I go with the flow and yes, stray away a lot from my so-called “Niche”. I’m way too diverse to keep to one subject and although, it may interest all of you…I cannot and will not ever just write about books.

I know, I know I hear it coming through the silent sound waves here “You are writer, how could you not enjoy writing about your niche?” Well, I’m sorry I could never be like those who constantly critique books, write about all stuff “books” or only discuss topics related to them. That is fine for me but I get restless and want to do more. I know I should not say this but point-blank writing critiques and only about books bores me. Books don’t bore me and writing books doesn’t bore me but constantly talking about them does. Yup, I’m guessing you find that “abbynormal” we call it here. My husband says he is abbynormal at times. I am well aware it’s not a word-again another made-up word from this “Chrissy Smith” that should know better. But this Chrissy Smith really has to not care so much what others think. I understand that is being selfish. But if you knew me you’d know I cared so much, worried all the time and it will eat you alive. If you knew me you’d say “Wow, it took her a long time to overcome things and not worry so much about what others think of her. Good for her!”. So, I’m not lacking that gene or anything about caring about others but I cannot live my life worrying over how others feel about me. That was for my youth and now I have grown a lot while overcoming lots of stressful obstacles to get here. I am proud of who I am now and what I have become. I believe that’s how everyone should feel. You should love yourself and who you are first THAN worry about others…lol:) Sounds selfish but it’s not being selfish at all. If you don’t love yourself then how on earth can you express or feel love for anybody else? It’s in the holy bible I’m thinking-Yup, I have my version of that too:)

Honestly, I do know how I go on tangents, off topics which should be revealed in my titles-I know you are probably all saying “Get to the point!!” Well, the point of my topic here is that I have decided something and like I said I can feel the flack on this one. But I would love to read all the books I can before that unfortunate day when I….well, let’s not go there but that day hopefully I will visit an awesome place and not somewhere where the heat is unbearable:) So, in order to get through books faster and junk or set aside for others the books that I am not interested in…… I’ve decided a new method to my madness, of course. I will and cannot get through all the books but I can get through a lot more by not reading the ones that in the end I will not have enjoyed much.

I know my method or theory will probably work for me (not for all though) but I will never know truly for sure about it. But I have decided that if by paragraph three or four the most I’m not captured into this book or enjoy the way the writer writes than I will set it aside for others to enjoy. I figure if you have not got me by those first few paragraphs and your writing is not my cup of tea (how you write-as we all have our own style, etc.) then I will move on. If I am enjoying I go a page or two, even a chapter or more. BUT with in the first few paragraphs usually even by the second one-I do know pretty much if I will enjoy this book or not. You must capture my attention quickly or I get bored. It’s just the way I’m programmed and usually I have given books many chapters to so-called captured my attention but now there is so much I’d like to give a chance to and read that I have developed this way of dealing with it. I’m really not like others and have no patience when it comes to books. Yes, in my younger days I gave them more of a chance but now with everyday life I just don’t have that much time to do so. If I’m going to read a book I don’t want to finish it and be let down by it. I’m probably not being fair but when writing a book the first chapter is your most important one and its meant to catch that reader’s attention. I’m sure if you don’t capture within the first few at the most, than they probably won’t be reading on. I know I would not do so. But hey, that’s just me and as always, take it with a grain of salt coming from this peanut gallery!

Article & Top Photo By Chrissy Smith. 

Morning “INK” Edition – The Books of Yesterday VS. The Books of Today

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Can the books of today compete with the old classics of books of yesterday aka the past? It’s hard for me to think that the today’s books can in any way, shape or form compete with all the awesome books of the yesterday. I haven’t seen any that spark enough within me to compete with the classics. I guess I’m prejudice against the books of today or something! I don’t like to think I’m prejudice against anything but thinking this kind of it may be okay:)

I know that the classics are the classics for a reason. I know that they have gotten so much exposure over the years, that it may be hard to compete with them. Although, you have to admit they are what they are for a reason. The problem I do see is that they are a matter of taste, as well. What one may like or interests them…on the other hand may be of no interest to another. There will be debates throughout time about books and which ones are the best. But it is truly all our own opinion on the matter and no one person can say “This is the one!”. Because to others it is not the one. So, even if it is a classic it may not and will not appeal to all.

I do have my favorites like we all do. I will not list them here though. I want you to keep your own opinions as we all have them. I do know what they consider one of the best-written books ever. I will hopefully be getting through this book shortly. I keep this in mind while reading it but I cannot for the life fathom that there is only one truly best-written books out there. It’s very hard for me to believe with such great talent in the past and present.

What comes to mind with the books of yesterday is the fact that they did not have the technology of today. They worked differently than US Authors of today:) They had no computers, spell-check or reference books within the computer and such. They were there with pen to paper and it probably took a very long time to write a book-much more so than today, of course. So, these books are truer in nature of how it was supposed to be without the technology. This makes it much more brilliant to me, if you can understand what I’m saying. I never really took a look at this or thought much about it until now. But if you think of the work involved for authors today, you can just imagine without the technology what these people went through. I broke three bones in my wrist when thrown from my horse at age 12. I would not have been able to write books without today’s technology. I get shooting pain still to this day when I write more than a half page of information. So, I would not have been able to put pen to paper to write a book. I needed todays technology of fingers to keys. So, the great world of books would have not known this “Chrissy Smith”!!:)

   

 

Creating “Self-Help” Books that Count!

Its true in this day and age “ANYONE” can write a book. Although, its only the best of the best who can actually create a book that matters. When it comes to the “Self-Help” non-fictional book, I do believe it matters who and what is written. What we as authors put out there does make a difference. We may not reach everyone but we do reach those who indeed we are supposed to touch, in a way that makes a difference and that’s what is meant by these types of books! They are truly out there to help others and to reach the right audience for that type of book. Writing a self-help book for any other reason to help other people is not really the right reasoning for writing a type of book of this nature. So, please keep in mind with this type of book that it’s not about the making of money but rather indeed, to help others with that specific problem. I can’t understand anyone writing this type of book for any other reason than that.

So, with that being said it does matter and make a big difference to the readers who is writing these self-help types of books. I as a writer, author and a reader do not want to read a self-help book by a person who has not dealt with the topic at hand. I want to read a book of this magnitude by someone who has experienced the topic or subject matter. I don’t want to read it from someone who is just doing the research and just find out about it. It’s just not going to ever be the same or up to par, as it will be by someone who knows the topic off the top of their head…that goes without doing the research. It comes more from the heart and a more realistic viewpoint. This is just how I feel. I do not even want to read about it by a Doctor or other medical professional. I want the real deal from someone who has experienced it. It’s how it has to be for me and how it comes across as real for myself. I’m not sure how everyone else feels but this is my opinion on the matter at hand here.

By all means pick up a self-help book from a medical professional and then pick up another one by a person who has suffered from that illness, drama or trauma in life. You will by all means feel the difference in how it is written and you will perceive it differently. It will be much more inspiring from the non-professional. Again, this is just my opinion and everyone has one…BUT I know that you will see what I am saying if you try reading both versions one by a professional in that field that has never suffered from that debilitating disease or problem and one who has. It’s written much differently and will make you see things in a much different light coming from the one who actually has felt the same way as you have.

I don’t know maybe it should be some unwritten law that these types of books are only written by those who has experienced your issue. I know this will never come to light but would be an awesome thing to see. SO, what are your thoughts on putting a law into effect? Would it or could it ever happen? I know doubtful but would be great! There are so many nonsensical laws out there in existence but when we really need one they are never put into effect. Oh well, we can all wish for things that will never come true or at the very least just bring them to light:)

Article By Chrissy Smith. Image Found On Google!

Morning “INK” Edition – The Realm of Possibilities in Life is Really up to YOU:)

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We all travel through life with either a positive optimistic outlook or a negative downer type of one. We can either roll with the punches and take them as they come or sit around feeling sorry for ourselves. I choose to keep on smiling while making others wonder why I am doing this. By doing this, it makes me feel more positive and rather optimistic that things will turn out right. After all I do have God in my pocket so to speak and who’s going to question him? If you keep him in your path with the realization that he will direct you in the manner in which you are supposed to be. Along the way, sure he is going to bombard you with lessons of life and even give you a bit of crap that you don’t want. However, in turn he will reward you in ways you never thought of. I know, we all want things but he will usually give you what you need rather than the perks of everything you want. If you keep a positive outlook than it all turns out in the end.

One must just ride out the storms to get to the beautiful sunrises further along in the horizons. It’s not really rocket-scientist subject matter here. It’s rather common sense but people tend not to see the good in life and they dwell on the bad sides of it. We look at the negatives not even seeing the positives up ahead. Sure it sucks that we even have to have bad things happen or so-called negatives in our lives. Yes, we’d all like positives and all happy times along the path of life. Although, it just doesn’t work like that. We are constantly being taught lessons within our lives.

We are being challenged and strengthened by each and every one of these types of challenges. Basically, God is saying “Let’s see what you got! Can you handle this because I think you can!?!” He is trying to though like I said to teach us something whether its patience or whatever. One must have that patience in life while waiting out the storms because if you don’t the struggles of life will eat you alive. You must like I said roll with the punches no matter what and never give up or give in to it all. Keep that smile on your face no matter how hard life seems to be…because in the end you will find that pure happiness and joy that comes within yourself and life! Just keep the faith and I promise you things do turn out in the ways that they are supposed to. It may just take you by surprise when you get to your next destination. Don’t ever underestimate the positive powers of God and your faith in him doing the right things to help you with your journey throughout your life!

Article & Top Photo By Chrissy Smith. Other Image Found on Google!

Late “INK” Edition – Is the Problem With “Crazy” is that “Crazy” Doesn’t Know It?

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I hate to think about this topic, as I don’t want to sound harsh or unrealistic here. But really “Is the problem with “Crazy” that “Crazy” just doesn’t know it?” OR what? I have dealt with many types of people in life and its sad to say that there are some legitimately “Crazier” types of people in this world. I’m not talking about the local “Joe” or “Jane” on the street. The types that you say are crazy and you really believe they are crazy. I’m talking about the ones who are truly insane but let loose on the rest of us! Because I’m sorry but “Crazy” doesn’t always know its “Crazy” and that’s just the name of the game. If they don’t know it-we all seem to pay for this-Crazy can be scary to the rest of us and we must step in to keep our sanity or at least our wits about us:)

I have been called all the names in the book including crazy. I don’t care now what others think about me-I am what I am and guess what “I like who I am”. I haven’t always been perfect and I’m not now either. But my life has taken many great turns in recent years and I’m a much happier and better person for those changes. I don’t think anyone should judge a book by its cover unless they have glossed their way through that book. By all means than I’d say you can judge that book because you have delved down deep within it and then you have the right to do so. I have been called all these names due to my Manic Depression Illness which at this point everyone should now know more about. It’s not as bad as some believe and I don’t go around committing crimes or hurting anyone. Many people judge me by that illness when they don’t know shit about it. Its sad-get your facts then come to me and see what I have to say to you. I’m a functional, rational, smart and creative person with a brain to boot. I can kick your ass with my wits, charm and clever way of making you see things in a new light. So, please leave the judgment at the front door and maybe take a look inside my world with understanding and kindness-not harsh judgment from a person lacking any common sense or rationality about the disease that affects more than we’d like to admit these days. It was hush-hush back in the day but I’m here to say f-that sh**…. we need to stand-up and fight for the rights of the “Legally insane” LOL……..

No, really this is not what this posting is about. It’s actually of a more serious topic and that is the clearly mentally challenged handicapped person who in reality really does not know they have lost it. I have known so many in life that truly seem insane in their actions but still not what I’m talking about. I am talking about people who for one reason or another has lost it. They truly should not be amongst the rest of us and should be hospitalized. It’s hard a lot of times for family to do this to a loved one.

But there comes a time when a person is totally out of sorts and is disrupting everyone elses lives that it comes to say…”Why are you letting this person run their own lives?”. They are mentally and physical at times incapacitated but we still try to help them, deal with them and cater to their needs. We allow them to make judgment calls that the rest of us would never do. At times these calls may make our lives harder to live with but because we love them-we let them do this? WHY??? None of it makes sense to me but I see it time and time again. It boggles my mind to this day that this is happening. I know doing the right things in life are hard sometimes. Although, if a person’s actions are no longer valid to society and what is acceptable behavior than someone has to take away the keys so to speak!! I’m just saying-i’m trying to talk rationally here about a serious topic. It’s not just the aging this can happen to but our youngsters too. But the aging play a key factor in this type of thing. Its sad when dementia sets in and memory starts failing. However, we must all do our part to step in when stepping in is needed. We cannot allow incapable people to run their own lives if its destructive the themselves and others. Their well-being should be of our utmost importance now!

Article & Top Photo By Chrissy Smith. Other Image Found on Google!